10 Signs That He Is Cheating On YOU!

When it comes to your partner cheating, I
don’t believe there are any definitive clues.
He could be working late, or he could be
cheating late. He could be dressing up for
you — or his mistress. That’s what makes
this type of thing so confusing and hurtful.
When you trust your spouse, you trust his
explanations. But there are always certain
things that get our antennae up. They don’t
seem to change much over the years,
though with the advent of technology,
those little hints now seem to involve a lot
more cellphones and social media and a lot
less lipstick on the collar (unless you’re
President Obama). Here are 10 classic signs
your guy (or your woman) might be
cheating.
1. He starts dressing better. According to
divorce lawyer Marilyn Stowe, this is still a
sign you should look out for. Did he
suddenly morph from flannel and dirty
boots to smart suits and shiny loafers? I’d
add in wearing cologne all of a sudden, or
changing the cologne he always wears to
something new. Could be a sign the
mistress gave him a bottle that she likes
better.
2. Guarding the cellphone. This is one I’ve
heard a lot in my girlfriend circles — he
suddenly starts sleeping with the cellphone
by his bedside, or bringing it into the
shower with him. He may turn it off when
you’re together and say he doesn’t want to
be disturbed while he’s with you — but he
really doesn’t want to risk her texting or
calling while you’re there. If he won’t even
let you touch his phone, sumpthin’ up.
3. Password protecting everything. In this
day and age, it’s prudent to password
protect your phone, but it can also be a
sign if he suddenly starts doing it when he
never cared before. Or he refuses to give
you the password.
4. He takes out new credit cards in his
name. According to Stowe, this is a sign
that he’s spending money on the new flame
— especially if the bills go to another
address or he has them delivered online
only.
5. He begins making hurtful remarks
about you. Picking fights all of a sudden is
a classic ploy — this way if he ever gets
caught, he can blame it on you and say you
two were always fighting!
6. He begins to drop a female name into
his conversations. I’ve heard this one
before, that a guy having an affair will start
bringing up a certain woman all of the time.
Apparently it gives him an adrenaline rush
to feel like he can talk about her and get
away with it. I’d also add avoiding talking
about a certain woman — say he starts
working on a project with a woman but he
NEVER mentions her. That’s weird if he’s
spending a lot of time with her.
7. Talking about how “ugly” or “horrible”
a certain woman is. This is one I’ve seen a
few times — a guy tries to cover up his
attraction to a certain woman by slagging
her off every chance he gets.
8. He suggests separate
holidays. According to Stowe, this is a clear
sign he wants you out of town.
9. Doesn’t want sex. He may not reject
you, but he’ll go along with your rejections
where he may have previously fought them.
Now it’s like, “Sure, let’s watch a movie
instead. Noooo problem.”
10. Social media. I’m simply amazed at
how many men forget that their wife or
girlfriend is on their Facebook and yet they
will flirt or even “check in” with another
woman also on his Facebook. Must think
women are blind!
While these are fairly “classic” signs, I’ve
also seen and experienced the complete
opposite. I know one husband who was
doing basically all of the above — but after
much investigating, his wife couldn’t find
any evidence of him having an affair. And
I’ve been in a situation where a guy was
doing none of the above — but was.
Such is life. It’s always a conundrum.